Fun with WordPress Stats

WordPress has a tool for looking at various basic statistics on each blog. Every once in awhile I take a look at the stats for mine. One of my favorite bits is the one which shows how many people are checking in from each of various countries. Over the life of this blog, I’ve had visitors from all over the world. The top countries tend to be English-speaking, but Germany holds the #3 all-time spot, and Denmark is at #5. I have no idea why, but I love it. Also represented in the all-time list are Lithuania, Tanzania, and Belgium. Wonderful.

Welcome to my reader from Japan! I don’t know how long you’ve been reading, but I hope you stick around! I regret that my Japanese is too rudimentary to manage more than this: Youkoso.

Also in the list is Puerto Rico, which for some reason WordPress includes in a list of countries, even though it is not a country, and should in fact be a state (and almost certainly would be already, if its inhabitants were mostly white and spoke mostly English). Pues, a mis lectores en Puerto Rico, ¡bienvenidos a Uds., y espero que vuelvan a menudo y disfruten leyendo mi pequeño blog!

Public service announcement for the Trump administration and Trump supporters, and apparently WordPress: Puerto Ricans are Americans. If they were born in Puerto Rico, they are still Americans, because Puerto Rico is American soil. Aid to Puerto Rico is not foreign aid, and it’s shameful that a country which can project military might all over the globe has a president who offers “it’s hard to get to because it’s an island” as an excuse for woefully inadequate disaster relief.

Now I’m going to pore over the stats some more. Romania! Hm…



HB 1319 needs support in order to add trans and gender nonconforming people to New Hampshire’s Nondiscrimination law

How to contact your NH legislators.

On January 31, some friends and I drove down to Concord to join many, many other people in advocating in favor of HB 1319, which would add gender identity and gender expression to New Hampshire’s nondiscrimination laws. The House Judiciary Committee was taking up the question of whether to recommend the bill for consideration by the full house. There were far too many people to fit in the chamber, which appeared to be similar to the chamber they used last year. So they adjourned the committee and reconvened in the State House, where the House of Representatives meets to debate and vote. We did a pretty good job of packing that, too.

This year, no out-of-state professionals testified against. Testimony in favor completely overwhelmed testimony against. Notable among the speakers was Chief Anthony Colarusso of the Dover Police Department. He said that he had been an officer for 33 years, and Chief of Dover for the last 11. He said that the NH Chiefs of Police, as an organization, support the bill, as does he. He said that he kept hearing about how this bill might make women or children unsafe, because people who were not trans might pretend to be trans in order to gain access to women’s spaces. (Yes, that’s an argument the opposition actually makes.) He pointed out that this is an antidiscrimination bill, and that the idea that it would open the doors to cisgender predators is “a bogeyman”. He said, as best I could transcribe it, “When I was investigating sexual assault, I didn’t have to worry about trans people. I had to worry about neighbors and other people who volunteered in order to put themselves into the position to predate.” He had no fear that this bill will make his children or grandchild less safe. In fact, he said, it is the trans kids at school who bear the brunt, because they are bullied.

The paltry few members of the opposition made counterarguments to the bill which were largely laughable. Doug Rollins of Goffstown, for instance, suggested that trans people “seek professional help to overcome deep interior trauma” — apparently ignorant that people who are transitioning or have transitioning have all “sought professional help” … because a therapist’s letter is required to access appropriate medical care. You can’t transition without “seeking professional help”.

People like Doug Rollins should perhaps know their topic better before putting their ignorance on blast in front of the entire State House of New Hampshire.

The best moment of the hearing came when Joseph Mendola, of Warner, NH, said that he opposed the bill. He said that “children have enough stress. We don’t need to add the stress of having a student of the opposite sex entering the locker rooms and bathrooms.” He said that in his own school, there are two children who “lean toward this transgender situation” out of 1800. He said that we should not lose local control, on this issue, but should let it be done by local school boards. He said that his school board met last year, when HB 478 was under consideration in 2017, to discuss how they would handle it.

One of the committee members (I did not catch his name, but he had white hair and was balding), asked if his school district did an effective job of dealing with the 2 children out of the 1800, and if there was anything in the current bill which would make that harder.

Mendola replied, “We didn’t have to deal with it. The bill was tabled.”

Rep. Alscholler asked, “So you chose not to protect these children because it was not required by law?”

The gallery applauded.

And Mendola replied, “There was no reason for protection. The bill was tabled.”

Mendola beautifully illustrated why HB 1319 is needed. He could not have done a better job if he’d been in favor of it himself.

The hearing did not fit into the day, and was continued on February 13. Some friends and I drove down again.

Among the speakers on this occasion was Karen Young, the Chief Inclusion Officer at Harvard Pilgrim Healthcare. She said, “We know that when trans & nonbinary people receive non-inclusive healthcare, they receive substandard care.” In a survey of their constituents, 18% of respondents did not see a doctor when they needed to, for fear of being harassed. She said that a consistent statewide standard is necessary to protect people whose health is negatively impacted by harassment.

Several other medical professionals spoke. They all spoke in favor. They testified that being trans is not a choice, and that trans people face literally overwhelming discrimination.

I had not planned to speak, but I decided to do so, and drafted my statement as others spoke. Here is what I said:

My name is Grace Alden. I have lived in Plainfield, NH for almost 20 years. My wife and I raised our children there.

I am a retired police officer. I retired after 21 years of service to the State of New Hampshire, most of it in Lebanon, NH. During my career I worked as a field training officer, a firearms instructor, a use-of-force instructor, a patrol supervisor, a traffic accident Reconstructionist, and a tactical operator. As far as I know, I am the only female trans officer to continue to serve as a tactical operator after I transitioned, while serving, in 2012.

When I [transitioned], my City Manager found it necessary to pay a lawyer to do the legal research to determine whether, in fact, the City of Lebanon had a sound legal footing in the event that some wanted to make an issue of my continued employment. That cost was ultimately borne by the taxpayers of Lebanon. They would not have had to pay for that legal research if HB 1319 had been law at the time. This is the concrete practical effect of having clarity in the law.

During my decades of service, I investigated thousands of complaints and made many hundreds of arrests. Not one of them involved a trans or gender nonconforming person behaving criminally or even inappropriately in a bathroom or locker room.

I did, however, hear slurs from members of the public because I was trans.

I did have coworkers avoid me as much as they could, which complicated the provision of police services to the people of Lebanon.

That situation was tremendously stressful to me. It was a significant part of my decision to retire.

The residents of Lebanon should not have had to lose a proven and experienced officer.

Trans and gender nonconforming people are not a threat to cis people. Those cis people who let themselves be governed by fear and ignorance, however, are demonstrably a threat to trans and gender nonconforming people. We need HB 1319 to become law.

Thank you for your time and attention.

With the testimony overwhelmingly in favor of the bill, and with most of the opposition appearing ignorant and sometimes unhinged, and often making the case accidentally for the supporters, I was cautiously optimistic.

On February 27, I learned that the House Judiciary Committee had just voted 10-to-8 that the bill “Ought to Pass”.

It was that close.

Now the bill is winding its way through the Senate, and is being considered by the Senate Judiciary Committee. I just called my Senator, Martha Hennessey, who is on that committee, and I asked her to recommend that the bill pass.

Please, contact your Senator.

How to contact your NH legislators.


Prime Minister Justin Trudeau Shows How It’s Done

Yesterday, Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau delivered an address in the House of Commons to LGBTQ2 Canadians, in which he apologized for years of “state-sponsored, systematic oppression and rejection” of LGBTQ2 Canadians.

Apologies require careful attention, but if you are sincere, the mechanics of a good apology are straightforward. Here is a good guide to apologies. Here is another. Here is another.

(Note that neither of these contains the step of asking for forgiveness. If you’re hoping for something in return for an apology, you’re doing it wrong. I disagree vehemently with each and every one of those many articles which have “Ask For Forgiveness” as one of the actual steps in an apology. You apologize because you have wronged someone. If you apologize in order to secure a statement of forgiveness, it’s not an apology; it’s a transaction. If you simply must ask for forgiveness from someone you have wronged, at least have the decency to do it at a different time and place from the apology.)

PM Trudeau was specific, and reasonably comprehensive. He talked about European colonists forcing on the First Peoples their ideas of propriety and rigid gender roles. He pointed out that same sex couples could be arrested for having sex as recently as 1988. He pointed out that from the 1950s to the 1990s, the government investigated and persecuted suspected LGBTQ2 people in government because they were thought to be especially vulnerable to blackmail (a practice which, of course, only made that potential problem worse). He characterized it as “nothing less than a witch hunt”.

He did not specifically mention the removal of First People children from their families, and the placement of those children in government-run boarding schools, a placement which plucked those children who were two-spirit from a cultural context where they could have had a place, and put them among people who did not understand them and would abuse them and demonize them. He did, however, apologize for suppressing “two spirit indigenous values and beliefs”.

Also, he gave about half of his speech in French. In a country with a large French-speaking population which is nonetheless a nationwide minority, speaking to that minority in their own language was inclusive and affirming.

He apologized to those who were stripped of their ability to serve their country:

You were not bad soldiers, sailors, airmen and women, you were not predators, and you were not criminals. You served your country with integrity and courage. You are professionals. You are patriots. And above all, you are innocent. For all your suffering, you deserve justice. You deserve peace. It is our collective shame that you were so mistreated. And it is our collective shame that this apology took so long. Many who suffered are no longer alive to hear these words, and for that, we are truly sorry.

He thanked and praised those who spoke out and resisted when it was

…dangerous to do so. To those from all across the country, from all backgrounds and political stripes: we admire your courage, and we thank you.

He pointed out that there are still things to be done. He pointed out that there is much to do for intersex people. He pointed out that trans people didn’t have protection under Canadian human rights legislation until 2017. He pointed out legislation in progress, one of which is the Expungement of Unjust Convictions Act. Canadians previously convicted of consensual sexual activity will have their criminal records destroyed.

He vowed that Canada would never repeat them.

Never again will Canada’s government be the source of so much pain for members of the LGBTQ2 communities. We promise to consult and work with individuals and communities to right these wrongs and begin to rebuild trust. We will ensure that there are systems in place so that these kinds of hateful practices are a thing of the past. Discrimination and oppression of LGBTQ2 Canadians will not be tolerated anymore.

He expressed his hope for the future, that Canada could set an example to the world on how to treat LGBTQ2 people.

Canada will stand tall on the international stage as we proudly advocate for equal rights for LGBTQ2 communities around the world.

Finally, he addressed LGBTQ2 children:

To the kids who are listening at home, and who fear rejection because of their sexual orientation or their gender identity and expression, and to those who are nervous and scared, but also excited, about what their future might hold: we are all worthy of love and deserving of respect, and whether you discover your truth at six, at sixteen, or at sixty: Who you are is valid. To members of the LGBTQ2 communities, young and old, here in Canada and around the world: You are loved, and we support you.

Several of his statements received standing ovations.

Check it out:

Last year, I thought that my country was taking the first steps into this stage. That turned out to be untrue. But it gives me hope to see such civilization represented in my country’s closest neighbor.

Someday perhaps my country will value our LGBTQ2 children in the same way.


Open Enrollment for AFFORDABLE HEALTHCARE Started Yesterday

In spite of the best efforts of the Republicans, the Affordable Care Act is still law. Which means that people who otherwise would have no access to healthcare for themselves and for their children, healthcare is available for 2018.

Since they weren’t able to get rid of affordable healthcare, they slashed it across the back of its knee and cut funding for public information efforts. That way, even though it’s available, people won’t know that it’s available.

Please spread the word to anyone who needs access to affordable care.

Get the word out!


AG Jeff Sessions: We affirm the dignity of trans people… but we won’t protect them from those who don’t.

This is the short version:

President Obama’s administration: Trans lives matter. The law protects them.

President Trump’s administration: ALL lives matter! Oh, and the law doesn’t protect trans people. We affirm their dignity, mind you. We just won’t lift a finger to help them.

Me: Context matters! By itself, “all lives matter” is a neutral statement. In reaction to “trans lives matter”, “all lives matter” is bigotry. When you have a crisis in population, to decline to protect that population is not equitable treatment. To say “all lives matter” in response to “trans lives matter” or “black lives matter” is like sending the fire department to a street where there is a house on fire and carefully directing them to hose down every house equally.

This is the longer version:

The Justice Department, under President Obama’s US Attorney General Eric Holder, in 2014:

I have determined that the best reading of Title VII’s prohibition of sex discrimination is that it encompasses discrimination based on gender identity, including transgender status. The most straightforward reading of Title VII is that discrimination ‘because of … sex’ includes discrimination because an employee’s gender identification is as a member of a particular sex, or because the employee is transitioning, or has transitioned, to another sex.

The Justice Department, under President Obama’s US Attorney General Loretta Lynch, in 2016:

There is nothing radical or even particularly unusual about the notion that the word ‘sex’ includes the concept of gender. Transgender people are discriminated against because their gender identity does not match the sex that was assigned to them at birth. HB2 denies transgender people something that all non-transgender people enjoy and take for granted: access to restrooms consistent with their gender identity. That’s sex discrimination, plain and simple.


Some of you [trans people] have lived freely for decades. Others of you are still wondering how you can possibly live the lives you were born to lead. But no matter how isolated or scared you may feel today, the Department of Justice and the entire Obama Administration wants you to know that we see you; we stand with you; and we will do everything we can to protect you going forward.


Transgender men are men. They live, work, and study as men.
Transgender women are women. They live, work, and study as women.

The Justice Department, under President Trump’s US Attorney General Jeff Sessions, talking about the same law on October 05, 2017:

Title VII’s prohibition on sex discrimination encompasses discrimination between men and women but does not encompass discrimination based on gender identity per se, including transgender status. … Therefore, as of the date of this memorandum, which hereby withdraws the December 15, 2014, memorandum, the Department of Justice will take that position in all pending and future matters…

…followed by this:

The Justice Department must and will continue to affirm the dignity of all people, including transgender individuals.

So the government of my country has spoken. It’s okay to discriminate against trans people, as long as you tell us that you respect us while you do it.

I sure feel safe, now. I feel safe like a bleeding mackerel in a shark tank.

But that’s federal law, so people in blue states should be okay, right? Well, no; I live in New Hampshire, and last year the government of my state spoke, too.

I still think Judge James Robertson said it best in Diane Schroer v. James Billington, Librarian of Congress:

Imagine that an employee is fired because she converts from Christianity to Judaism. Imagine too that her employer testifies that he harbors no bias toward either Christians or Jews but only ‘converts.’ That would be a clear case of discrimination ‘because of religion.’ No court would take seriously the notion that ‘converts’ are not covered by statute. Discrimination ‘because of religion’ easily encompasses discrimination because of a change of religion. But in cases where the plaintiff has changed her sex, and faces discrimination because of the decision to stop presenting as a man and to start appearing as a woman, courts have traditionally carved such persons out of the statute by concluding that ‘transsexuality’ is unprotected by Title VII. In other words, courts have allowed their focus on the label ‘transsexual’ to blind them to the statutory language itself.

None of this is theoretical. Civil rights decisions have an effect on how many children kill themselves.

This decision by our federal government will be a blow to vulnerable people, which surely includes our fellow citizens who are trans and gender non-conforming (GNC), and which surely includes trans and GNC kids.

If you know someone who is trans, please look out for them. If you know a child who is trans, or just GNC, if you know an apparent boy who is feminine, or an apparent girl who is masculine: please keep an eye on them. Tell them that a wise man, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., said

The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.

Tell them that this is temporary. Tell them that in the long run, bigotry loses. Tell them that we will keep fighting for their equality under the law.

Tell them that they have inherent worth and dignity, not just in the hypocritical mouthings of Jeff Sessions and Donald Trump, and not just in a courtroom (in those places where their peril is acknowledged in law), but in their actual persons, in their actual souls. Show them that you believe in their inherent worth and dignity by your daily deeds, not just by words you speak.

When they look into your human eyes, help them to see themselves reflected.


Evidence That Your Vote Counts: 509 Voters in New Hampshire Probably Saved the Affordable Care Act

A friend of mine has a son with hemophilia. The equation is stark: without routine treatment, her son dies. Monthly cost out-of-pocket would be about $12,000. You can hit a lifetime cap very fast, at that rate, and you’ll never get coverage after that without the current ban on refusing care to people with pre-existing conditions.

I have several pre-existing conditions, one of which is cancer. At the moment, my most costly medical cost is screening to see if it has come back. So far, so good. If my family lost healthcare, I’d have to wing it and hope for the best, and if it came back, we’d probably catch it too late. Unlike last time, when I had healthcare. My other healthcare costs are minimal.

For now. That could change, of course, with one careless driver. I recall one accident I investigated where a driver crossed the center line (probably because she dozed off) and took another car head-on. She was fine. The other driver, a man, had two broken hips, among other traumas, and was screaming such that another officer who showed up shortly after I did thought that it was a woman whom the EMTs were extricating.

That man could be any of us. That could be in your future.

But that’s hypothetical. My friend’s child is anything but hypothetical. He exists.

I met him when his mom took him roller skating. He seemed like a nice kid. But, of course, that’s neither here nor there; he is a human being with inherent worth and dignity, and he is too young to look out for himself, and he has a medical condition which, treated appropriately, will enable him to live as long as any of us can reasonably hope for.

The prospective repeal of the Affordable Care Act seems beyond heartless, in that context. It seems like purposeful evil.

It’s not, of course. It’s commonplace, banal indifference coupled to a desire to lower taxes on those best able to pay taxes.

Well, Mitch McConnell sure was persistent, but in the end, the Republicans didn’t have the votes to repeal the ACA. One big reason was that the Republican majority in the Senate is so slim. One fewer Democrat and one more typical Republican, and that would have been a net of two more votes in favor of repeal.

In New Hampshire, Democrat Maggie Hassan beat Republican Kelly Ayotte by 1017 votes.

I have nothing against Kelly Ayotte. In fact, I have a personal connection which disposes me to think well of her, and on a personal level, I do. She was New Hampshire’s Attorney General during my law enforcement career. My friend and colleague Bruce McKay started his career just a month or so after I did, in the same department, and years later was killed in the line of duty. When we marched to honor him on a foggy day in the north country, Kelly Ayotte was among those who spoke, and I’ve never forgotten it.

But I didn’t vote for her. She is a Republican, and while Republicans have gotten my vote in the past, and may someday get my vote in the future, no Republican got my vote in 2016. Because I thought it was pretty clear what kinds of policies they would enact, and because they had decided to support Donald Trump for president. People who want power badly enough to line up behind a person like Trump don’t get my vote.

So I voted for Maggie Hassan.

Senatorial elections are statewide. There’s no such thing as the Electoral College, or a “winner-takes-all” county. It’s a simple head-count. Here’s how it turned out:

Maggie Hassan: 354,649 votes
Kelly Ayotte: 353,632 votes

1017 votes apart. If 509 voters who voted for Hassan had voted for Ayotte instead, Kelly Ayotte would have been a US Senator yesterday, when they tallied the vote on the ACA.

That’s smaller than the number of people at a high school football game. If you have a good set of lungs, you can reach that many people with a shout, downtown in a city. That’s a hair’s breadth. That’s 0.1436% of the vote. Less than a fifth of one percent.

So, to all who are looking at a foreseeable future of having healthcare, you’re welcome. It was my privilege.

Because I’m more than a citizen: I am a voter, so my vote counts.

And so does yours.

If you vote.


Trump About to Sign on Legalizing TLBG discrimination

Maybe Donald Trump wouldn’t hurt a fly. But he sure has a knack for selecting people who will do it for him, and then backing them.

Vice President Mike Pence came to national prominence when he was governor of Indiana, and signed a “RFRA” bill into law. “RFRA” stands for Religious Freedom Restoration Act. Indiana’s bill was more sweeping than the prior federal legislation or legislation in many other states because it permitted people to argue RFRA protections in civil suits, where the government was not a party.

Religious freedom sounds nifty, right? Until your doctor says that he will not prescribe birth control for you, because he can’t, in good conscience, do that. Or until you and your same-sex spouse need a room for the night and a bed-and-breakfast owner refuses you a room because your relationship is “detestable” and “defiles [their] land”.

One of this nation’s founding ideals is that no single religion should have primacy. That is, freedom OF religion also includes freedom FROM religion. And never mind whether you think children should be required to pray in schools, or should utter the words “under God” in the Pledge of Allegiance — when it comes to basic public services, like obtaining medical care or a place to put your head for the night, it’s hard to see why one person’s else’s religious convictions, however sincere, should control another person’s access to these basic services.

In 2014, President Obama signed Executive Order 13672, which protected civilian federal workers from discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity. In 2017, Trump rescinded it.

Now Trump is going to advance Pence’s agenda, and remove more protections which enable TLBG people to participate in our society as equal citizens.

Here’s how you can make your voice heard:

How to contact your Federal government.


Edited to add resource links:

Thoughts While Driving Home as a Second-Class Citizen: Look After the Children

Yesterday I showed up on the State House steps in Concord to lobby in favor of HB 478, which would have added “gender identity” as a protected class in NH law, alongside such things as sex and race. I saw some old friends and made some new friends, and we held signs and greeted the arriving Representatives politely and thanked them for voting in favor of our equal protection.

Today, seconds after the bill came up, Speaker Shawn Jasper called for a vote to table the bill, which meant no discussion on its merits, and no vote on whether it should become law. The House voted 187-179 to table it. All but two of the 187 were Republicans. All but eighteen of the 179 were Democrats. A later vote to take it off the table (and therefore debate its merits and vote on the bill) failed.

I went to my evening activity knowing only about the first vote. I knew the likely outcome, but I managed to distract myself with physical activity among friends. I only thought about it twice. But afterward, when I was the last car in the lot, as the engine warmed up I couldn’t resist calling up the result on my phone.

And so I drove home knowing for sure that under NH law, I’m still a second-class citizen.

I’m not all right, tonight, but I will be. I’ve weathered worse, including in 2009. And I’m in the lucky minority of trans people who has never considered self-harm.

But I worry about the other trans people in this state, and especially about the trans kids. As I posted previously, civil rights decisions have an effect on how many children kill themselves.

This decision by our state government will be a blow to vulnerable people, which surely includes many trans people and gender non-conforming (GNC) people in this state, and which surely includes trans and GNC kids.

If you know someone who is trans, please look out for them. If you know a child who is trans, or just GNC, if you know an apparent boy who is feminine, or an apparent girl who is masculine: please keep an eye on them. Tell them that a wise man, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., said

The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.

Tell them that we will keep fighting for their equality under the law.

We’ll be back next year, and each year until we’re no longer legally second-class citizens.


How to help with HB 478, an open letter to a NH rep, and some humor

Hello, all!

Important things are going on, so I have a threefer for you, today:

A. How to help with HB478

B. A copy of my open letter to Representative Jess Edwards, in case anyone needs talking points.

C. A bit of humor, because humor makes life better, and we could all use a little mercy, now.

HB 478 is scheduled to go before the NH House for a vote tomorrow (Wednesday). Right now, there is a movement to table it, and not vote on it. This is because the e-mails they are receiving are running 4-to-1 against. I spoke with one of my reps, Lee Oxenham, yesterday, and she said that she’s seeing a lot of repeat names in the e-mails, which means that some busy beavers are sending as many as they can. Apparently this is having the effect of clogging some representatives’ mailboxes and creating the impression of a tide of opinion against the bill.

WHAT YOU CAN DO: According to Lee and other legislators we have spoken with, right now the most important thing is to be seen on the Statehouse steps, Wednesday, at 08:30, with clear signs. Wear green, which is the color of the effort to pass this bill. I will be going down with Sparrow in order to stand up for trans rights. Our signs will read:



and on the reverse:

So, e-mail, call, do whatever you can, but IF AT ALL POSSIBLE, please: show up in person.


Show up on Wednesday, 03-08, at 08:30.
Address: 107 N Main St, Concord, NH 03303
Wear green.
If possible, have a sign.

So, Rep. Jess Edwards gave an interview to New Hampshire Public Radio. This is my reply, which I e-mailed to him directly, at

Good morning, Rep. Edwards.

I just read an interview which you gave, in which you said that although you voted to move HB478 out of committee, you would now be voting to table it in the full House. If you were quoted correctly, then you said that there was “just no evidence” of discrimination against Granite Staters who are trans.

Of course, there IS evidence; you heard it at the committee hearings. Testimonial evidence. I know you did, because I was there, too, and you seemed attentive and asked questions several times.

You say that only one case has gone before the courts. But of course most trans people don’t have access to the money and knowledge which it takes to drive an uncertain case through the court system. And, of course, many times de facto discrimination cannot be proven in court, which doesn’t mean that it didn’t happen. Often, you can see in the pattern what you cannot prove in individual cases, which is why survey data can be so useful. Trans people are unemployed at a far greater rate than the general population, despite being generally more educated, and despite serving in our nation’s armed forces at twice the rate of the general population. Most trans people who experience discrimination don’t have the footing to challenge it, and simply have to look elsewhere for equal treatment.

You said that you didn’t think there would be a business impact. But you heard testimony from a biomedical researcher, Dr. Elena Long, who is trans, and who testified at the hearing that she was in the process of deciding where to locate her business, and that whether or not NH had trans protections was going to be one of the most important factors in her decision.

When I transitioned at my place of work, my employer, the City of Lebanon, had to hire a lawyer to do the legal research to determine that my employment was protected, (and even after spending thousands of dollars on that, and after training personnel, there were problems). This law would make such costs unnecessary, by clarifying the legal landscape for everyone involved. That would mean a savings for business and government in the Granite State.

In the interview, you also said that our NH constitution already protected trans people. I just looked up what it says: “All men have certain natural, essential, and inherent rights – among which are, the enjoying and defending life and liberty; acquiring, possessing, and protecting, property; and, in a word, of seeking and obtaining happiness. Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by this state on account of race, creed, color, sex or national origin.”

Sadly, we know from our nation’s history that sometimes a constitutional assurance is not enough. Our Federal Constitution was amended in 1869 to prohibit the denial of the right to vote on the basis of race. By 1969, it was clear to everyone that the amended Constitution was not sufficient.

In this case, our NH constitution does not mention gender identity. So, each time there is a dispute, someone has to make the case, all over again, that discrimination on gender identity is discrimination due to sex, and therefore protected. This law would clarify the legal landscape for all parties.

I urge you to vote in favor of this bill. It hurts no one, and it helps to protect a beleaguered minority.


Thank you for hearing me out.

Grace Alden, police officer (ret.)

Finally, because we could all use a bit of humor, some pointed commentary from a white, cis, straight woman who uses bathrooms for their intended purposes, on what would make her feel safe:


How to contact your NH legislators.


Marriage Equality = Fewer Adolescents Killing Themselves. Some Implications:

JAMA, The Journal of the American Medical Association, recently published a study: “Difference-in-Differences Analysis of the Association Between State Same-Sex Marriage Policies and Adolescent Suicide Attempts”.

Findings …same-sex marriage policies were associated with a 7% reduction in the proportion of all high school students reporting a suicide attempt within the past year.

Meaning Same-sex marriage policies are associated with reduced adolescent suicide attempts.

Results Among the 762 678 students (mean [SD] age, 16.0 [1.2] years; 366 063 males and 396 615 females) who participated in the YRBSS [the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System] between 1999 and 2015, a weighted 8.6% of all high school students and 28.5% of 231 413 students who identified as sexual minorities reported suicide attempts before implementation of same-sex marriage policies. Same-sex marriage policies were associated with a 0.6–percentage point (95% CI, –1.2 to –0.01 percentage points) reduction in suicide attempts, representing a 7% relative reduction in the proportion of high school students attempting suicide owing to same-sex marriage implementation. The association was concentrated among students who were sexual minorities. [emphasis added]

A 0.6–percentage point decline in suicide rates for all students would be equivalent to an estimated 134 446… fewer adolescents attempting suicide each year, based on the 2015 US population estimates of adolescents aged 15 to 19 years.

In other words, in each year following the establishment of nationwide marriage equality, about 130,000 American adolescents didn’t attempt suicide, who otherwise would have. Between 2.5% and 10% of suicide attempts result in death, so that’s roughly 3,000 to 13,000 kids alive each year who would have been dead otherwise.

Note that it was true of all adolescents, not just LGBT kids. The effect was more pronounced in LGBT kids, but it was present in all kids. LGBT equality is a tide which lifts straight boats, too.

That’s just considering death. There’s also the human suffering to consider, both of those who remain alive and of those who ultimately killed themselves. People don’t kill themselves on a whim. They do it because they can’t bear the agony that they’re going through, and they run out of whatever hope or determination was getting them through that day, or that hour, or that minute. They do it because the fear of death and the risk of surviving maimed are less painful than the pressure they are under, whatever that pressure is.

We know that chronic pain increases suicide risk. So does traumatic brain injury, and kidney failure requiring hemodialysis. A cancer diagnosis roughly doubles the risk of suicide. Being a veteran of war roughly doubles or triples the risk of suicide, depending on the study.

The rate of suicide attempt in the general population is about 4.6%. If attempt were perfectly correlated with completion, then the attempt rate in the population of war veterans would be about 10-12%, but studies show that veterans are more likely to complete a suicide attempt, which would mean that combat veterans have a suicide attempt rate lower than 12%.

The rate of suicide attempt among trans adults (those who were still alive to respond to surveys) is about 41%.

Ever since the Williams Institute published the study which contained that 41% figure, anti-trans people have used it as “evidence” to argue that trans people are mentally ill — because only mentally ill people would kill themselves, right?

But we don’t make that argument of combat veterans, do we? Somehow, most people understand effortlessly that human beings who survive the toxic, corrosive stew that is combat are often wounded because of it.

We don’t make that argument about victims of bullying, either. It’s well-known that being bullied increases the risk of suicide, but when someone suggests that children who kill themselves after being bullied are ill, or weak, and just needed to be tougher… most people understand effortlessly that if a person says that about a bullied child, that person is acting like an asshole.

Trans people deal with daily, hourly corrosion, and the result is that for some of us, the fear of another day of it, or another hour of it, comes to outweigh the fear of death or maiming.

I’m not going to try to explain what that corrosion is like. Getting into that headspace thoroughly enough to describe it to someone who has never been there… that is difficult and corrosive in itself. (Especially when the person you’re explaining it to still doesn’t get it. People who don’t get it are not necessarily bad people, it’s just that they have no life experience sufficiently parallel to enable them to grasp it. It’s a level of unrelenting pressure qualitatively beyond their experience. The chasm is too wide to leap.)

Instead, consider it from the other side. If trans people are not fundamentally mentally ill, if we are “just folks”, and most of our troubles, like other folks’ troubles, arise from having to grapple with how people in our society treat us…

…then the treatment our society metes out to us must be truly hellish, to produce an average level of suicidal despair more than four times higher than that of combat veterans.

And indeed, our society’s treatment is hellish. And also, like all folks encountering extreme difficulty, when the difficulty moderates somewhat, we do better. A 2015 study in Canada, focused specifically on trans people, found that

High levels of social support (90th percentile) versus low levels (10th percentile) were significantly associated with a 49 % reduction in suicide ideation… and with a further 82 % reduction in attempt risk among those with ideation… This would be associated with potential prevention of 100 cases of ideation per 1,000 trans persons… and a further prevention of 220 attempts per 1,000 trans persons considering suicide…

This is not a shocking finding, but one of the basic tasks of scientific research is to discover whether what we believe is supported by the evidence. So, there we go: there is some evidence that lower levels of social support result in more dead people.

It’s especially important not to be rejected by your family. According to The Trevor Project,

LGB youth who come from highly rejecting families are 8.4 times as likely to have attempted suicide as LGB peers who reported no or low levels of family rejection.

Administrative support matters, too. Back to the Canadian study:

Having one or more identity documents concordant with lived gender was significantly associated with reductions in past-year ideation… with the potential to prevent 90 cases of ideation per 1,000 trans persons… and 230 attempts per 1,000 with ideation.

In other words, being able to legally assert your identity is positively correlated with survival.

Nothing succeeds like success. Success begets hope. Hope begets resilience.

Harvey Milk knew this from his own lived experience, way back in 1978, almost forty years ago:


Somewhere in Des Moines, or San Antonio, there is a young gay person, who all of a sudden realizes that she or he is gay, knows that if the parents find out, they will be tossed out of the house, their classmates will taunt the child, and the Anita Bryants and John Briggs are doing their bit on TV, and that child has several options: staying in the closet, suicide. And then one day that child might open a paper that says, “Homosexual elected in San Francisco” and there are two new options. One option is to go to California, [and the other option] is to stay in San Antonio and fight.

Two days after I was elected, I got a phone call, and the voice was quite young. It was from Altoona, Pennsylvania. And the person said, “Thanks.”

And you’ve got to elect gay people, so that that young child, and the thousands upon thousands like that child know that there’s hope for a better world, there’s hope for a better tomorrow. Without hope, not only gays, but the blacks, the asians, the disabled, the seniors, the usses, the usses. Without hope, the usses give up. I know that you cannot live on hope alone. But without it, life is not worth living.

And you, and you, and you: you’ve got to give them hope.

Probably most of those adolescents who didn’t kill themselves weren’t planning on getting married, specifically. But the movement of our nation toward equality gave them hope, so that when the next moment of suicidal ideation came, they were able to push past it, and survive.

When Attorney General Loretta Lynch gave her powerful speech in support of trans people

… it gave us hope. I’ve talked about that speech before. I felt that sense of hope.

Conversely, in 2012, when the government of New Hampshire last considered the rights of trans people to equal access in public accommodation and it never got out of committee, and was unanimously voted “inexpedient to legislate”… I felt that sense of despair.

If our society stopped treating trans and gender nonconforming people like pariahs, we would kill ourselves no more often than other folks.

And some evidence for the truth of that proposition is in the reduction in adolescent suicide which followed nationwide marriage equality.

Last summer I attended a meeting at the Unitarian Church of Montpelier. One of the things they do to support their community’s LGBT youth is to regularly open their doors to them, I think every other week, and throw a social, where those kids can have pizza and do their thing in a safe environment. That program has saved lives. They know this, because the survivors tell them. A kid arrives, planning to commit suicide later, and mentions it, and people rally around, and protect them, and they make it through to another day, with more hope.

This issue is not merely a matter of principle, of fair treatment. This is a matter of survival. It is as lethal as a heart attack.

…lesbian, gay, and bisexual young adults who reported higher levels of family rejection during adolescence were 8.4 times more likely to report having attempted suicide, 5.9 times more likely to report high levels of depression, 3.4 times more likely to use illegal drugs, and 3.4 times more likely to report having engaged in unprotected sexual intercourse compared with peers from families that reported no or low levels of family rejection.

Let’s give kids hope, here in New Hampshire. All the kids, including your kids. Especially LGBT kids… some of whom might turn out to be yours, too, since we LGBT folks are born to every kind of parent.

Let’s pass HB478, the New Hampshire gender identity nondiscrimination bill. In 2012, it died in committee. Here in 2017, it made it out of committee and into the whole House.

This week, I’m meeting with one of my reps. She’s in favor, but she has questions about details and wants to be able to understand trans people better, which will enable her to advocate better.

Here’s my offer: I will make time to meet with any rep who wants to meet with me. I’ve called all of mine. If you have one who would like to meet a trans person who is thoughtful, knowledgeable, and pleasant, please have them contact me at this e-mail, minus the chaff (to defeat robots):

Let’s pass this thing.

How to contact your NH legislators.